Let’s be honest with ourselves ladies, we all have that one friend that just doesn’t quite fit in with our awesome circle of friends. However that friend is always there when you need a back-up sitter, or just when no one else is around to talk. Alright my turn to be honest, I don’t have a single one of those types of friends. Nope, I’m not the perfect holier than though mom. I am that friend, the one you sometimes forget about. Most of the time I am not okay with being the friend of convenience. Seriously, ladies let me throw my heart out onto the table, it hurts.
It hurts because I’m not one of those cool moms. I’m the mom that will probably end up watching your child while you are busy socializing with the cool moms. I’m the mom that has no problem helping any child with her ballet shoes. I’m the mom that will be there to listen to any child’s day and their problems. I might even try to lift them up and give them some motivating thoughts. Yup, I will do that for other children even when I sometimes fail to do it for my own.
It hurts because one day you could be talking to me and asking about my life. And then the next time we see each other I might have awesome news I choose to share with one of my only friends. However there you are talking with your other friends, who weren’t there before, and laughing while you swap stories. So there I am left to just sit there and wait for the time to pass. The time passes very slowly simply because I want to go home and avoid my daughter’s caring questions. “Mommy, how come you and so and so’s mommy aren’t friends every time you see her?” “Mommy, how come you don’t have any friends?” Try answering those questions to someone else, when you can’t even answer them for yourself.
So here’s the thing, I’m not looking for sympathy or friends. I’m simply saying that if you happen to have a friend that you only talk to under certain circumstances, reach out to her. Perhaps she, unfortunately, knows her status and just waits hoping she isn’t too much of a bother to you. That’s me, I don’t want to bother anyone that doesn’t have enough time for me. Ladies treat your friends well, you never know how much they actually need you. If you are a friend of convenience, like me, come hang out with me. We can sit in the corner every single day and be a new status of “cool mom.”